It’s now been a couple of weeks since I made the decision to put attempts at dating on pause for a little while. At first, the decision felt terrific. It was strong and empowering to recognize things weren’t working. Taking a step back to regroup seemed like a reasonable idea.
It was just one date. One date, a few weeks of messaging, and the hope of finding some joy in each other for a while.I break for joy
That hope is now gone. So it goes sometimes. Time to keep looking and try the whole thing all over again.
I don’t want to do it anymore.
Now, a few weeks later, it isn’t feeling quite as powerful.
Friends have told me that when they were using online dating sites they took breaks now and again. They have assured me there isn’t anything unusual about it.
I don’t plan on reactivating my account anytime soon. But, I am curious to know if those of you who have participated in online dating have had similar experiences.
If you met your partners quickly when you tried online dating, this conversation is not applicable to you (although, of course, I’m terribly happy for you, yay love, you are adorable and awesome together, how wonderful for you that you met so quickly, please do tell me all about how lovely your life is, that’s exactly what will be helpful to me right now).
If you did not meet partners quickly, tell me… Did you need to take breaks from dating once in a while? For how long? How frequently?
And which do you think is worse — the constant disappointment and misery of trying to date or the feelings of pessimism and negativity that accompany taking a break?