Eight years ago this week I broke up with my best friend of twenty-five years. It had to be done. She had been verbally abusive and controlling when we were younger, and as we got older it became worse. This was true even though we lived on opposite sides of the country from one another. … Continue reading Missing a Best Friend after a Break Up
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It’s Not Me, It’s Him
It's a feeling about a fantasy scenario. It's a big feeling, an intense feeling, and it's about a nonexistent situation.
Cookie, and Calming an Anxious Attachment Style
Instead of, “Hey, this is nice. How lovely,” the heart screams, “Let’s think about how awful it will feel if this ends.”
Anxiety and Dating
I didn't hear from the gentleman again after the lovely drink we had together last Friday. It gave me the opportunity to face some personal challenges and address some anxious attachment tendencies. He knew I'd be a bit frenzied this week with family in town. I tried to assume he was giving me some space … Continue reading Anxiety and Dating
First Date
I went on my first Tinder date tonight. I signed up on Saturday. Today is Monday. I also have a date lined up for tomorrow. And Friday. And next Monday. I probably would have dates on Wednesday and Thursday, too, except I already have plans on those nights. I can't believe I was nervous about … Continue reading First Date