I'll preface this by saying Plum Dating is in no way compensating me for signing up for the Plum Dating app or writing this review. Nobody at Plum Dating even knows I exist. I am simply a woman who has a lot of experience with dating apps and who was interested in the development and … Continue reading I tried the Plum Dating App. Here’s how it went.
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Which Feels Worse: Dating or Not Dating?
It's now been a couple of weeks since I made the decision to put attempts at dating on pause for a little while. At first, the decision felt terrific. It was strong and empowering to recognize things weren't working. Taking a step back to regroup seemed like a reasonable idea. It was just one date. … Continue reading Which Feels Worse: Dating or Not Dating?
A Text from Chris
Chris texted me. I'm floored to have heard from him and am struggling to think of a response. His message popped up on my phone yesterday afternoon. I'm doing pretty good. Thank you for asking. My sibs are in town now, so, sort of a shit show here :). Mom is suffering from kidney troubles, … Continue reading A Text from Chris
Still bummed about Chris
I looked at OkCupid yesterday and happened to notice my conversation with Chris is no longer there. This means one of two things happened. Either he unmatched with me, or he has disabled his account. My gut says it was the latter. My gut says his mother's "health issues" are fact, not falsehood, and things … Continue reading Still bummed about Chris
Hello New Followers
Welcome, new followers! Please introduce yourself and let me know who you are?
Follow-up: Romantic Joy and a Cookie
This is a follow-up post to one from Wednesday of this week, where I expressed eagerness and excitement about seeing a man again. I expressed happiness that my guard wasn't up. There isn't a thing about this guy that is making me nervous. Our evening together on Wednesday was wonderful. He's an absolute delight to … Continue reading Follow-up: Romantic Joy and a Cookie
Romantic Joy
Only a few more hours until I see him again. We went out last Wednesday night. We met for drinks. We had chatted intermittently on OKCupid for over a month. The infrequency of our chatter and the delay in meeting was more my fault than his. The holiday season was busy to the point of … Continue reading Romantic Joy
Romantic Quandaries
I ended things with the sexy professor. I'm a bit sad, but confident it was the right thing to do.
Update: The sexy professor
"Are you okay? Your voice... You sounded a little tired or something. I thought I heard a little sigh there." I joked, "Well, so much for me having an acting career."
Dating Update: Trying to Move Forward from Trauma
The walls I've worked so hard to dismantle suddenly emerged from the ground on every side of me, and slammed closed with a massive clanging sound over my head. I was surrounded by heavy gray stone all around and above me. No doors, no windows, no light. Just me, huddled inside a cell of my own making, in self-enforced solitary confinement.
Online Dating: What are you looking for?
What are you looking for in a connection made on a dating site?
The Dog Walker
It was quite hypocritical of me. I was willing to give one man a second chance, but not another? I can't believe none of you called me out on this. What a bunch of slackers.
Dating update
I had two social events this weekend that were both surprising and positive. The first was my company holiday party on Friday evening. Usually, I find those things awkward as hell and have a hard time enjoying myself. This year, I had a blast. It wasn't at all difficult to mingle, chat, or have fun. … Continue reading Dating update
Inauthenticity
I went out with a guy last night and I cared whether he liked me or not. As a result, I was nervous. My caring may have been because I already suspected I could easily really like him. I liked his profile online and definitely thought he was cute, and our conversation via online chat … Continue reading Inauthenticity
Yellow flags vs red flags
Everyone knows to look out for red flags. But yellow flags? Do we pay enough attention to them? Do we make excuses when we shouldn't? Do we "wait and see" about yellow flags, or will enough of them make us cut someone loose? Recently, I started online dating again. Although, using the word "dating" seems … Continue reading Yellow flags vs red flags